- One in six grandparents DON’T want Christmas lunch with their families
- A quarter of grandads would rather not spend Christmas day with their grandkids
- One in ten say drunken relatives are the thing they hate most about Christmas
While we may think all grandparents want to spend the day with their family; new research from over 50s experts SunLife has found that more than a quarter of grandads would rather not even see their grandkids on Christmas day.
One in six would prefer a quiet Christmas lunch at home alone, one in 20 would rather go to a pub or not bother with Christmas dinner at all, and one in 14 would rather get away from it all and spend Christmas abroad.
In contrast, grandmothers love having their families around them – half want to be at home, either cooking themselves (38%) or hosting but with the family doing most of the food (11%) while 25% prefer to go to a family members’ home for Christmas lunch.
Apart from the cost, which is the thing all grandparents find the most difficult about the festivities, some of the things that really bother grandads about spending Christmas is being forced to watch TV they don’t like.
They also don’t like playing games, visitors that stay too long and drunken relatives - perhaps it is no wonder many prefer to spend the day alone.
|What grandparents hate about Christmas|
|The cost - too expensive||The cost - too expensive|
|Being forced to watch TV I don't like||Marks the end of another year|
|Marks the end of another year||Being forced to watch TV I don't like|
|Playing games||It's over too soon|
|Visitors staying too long||The food – too much|
Grandmothers find the feelings Christmas brings – that it is the end of another year and that it is over too soon - hard, although being forced to watch TV they don’t like is number 3 in their list of bugbears!
When it comes to buying Christmas presents for their grandchildren, most grandparents like to get a surprise gift (41%) however a third want to be sure they are getting their grandkids something they will like and prefer to be told what to buy by the parents.
Just under one in 12 go even further and ask the parents to buy the gift on their behalf while one in seven don’t bother with a gift and just give their grandkids the money.
The type of gift does vary slightly by age – younger grandparents (50-65) are much more likely to get their grandkids a surprise gift with 50% saying they do this compared to less than a third of those grandparents aged 65 or over.
On the flipside, one in five over 65s would prefer to give their grandchildren the money compared to just one in ten of those aged 50-65.
When it comes to what grandparents would like to receive, the top choice for grandmas and nans is something their grandchildren has crafted, with almost a third (31%) saying this would be their ideal gift.
However, for grandfathers and grandads, a home-made gift is fifth on the list – they would prefer a book, electrical or tech item, something drinkable or even a voucher before receiving something their grandchild has made.
|Ideal Christmas gifts|
|1||Homemade by grandchildren||Book|
|5||Book||Homemade by grandchildren|
Overall, books and vouchers are a popular choice, while one in five would like to receive something to wear while more grandfathers would rather receive nothing than music, a DVD or a sentimental gift.
Ian Atkinson, head of brand at SunLife said: “When I was a child, an older relative used to give us socks every year – several sizes too small – so as kids we were delighted when he started giving us a £5 note instead.
“It can be very difficult knowing what to buy a grandchild if you don’t see them often. Of course it’s just as difficult the other way around too – knowing what to buy the grandparents – so we hope this research helps.
“Basically, make something for grandma or buy her something she can wear… but buy granddad something he can read, plug in or drink!”