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What is loneliness?
Loneliness is a feeling that most of us will experience at some point in our lives. The way we experience loneliness will be different to everyone.
It can affect us when we’re physically alone, or when we’re surrounded by people.
As we get older, we’re especially vulnerable to loneliness and isolation. More than 2 million people in our country aged 75 and over live alone.
There are lots of reasons why we might feel lonelier and more isolated as we get older. Retirement, bereavement, smaller social circles and illness are just some of the changes in life that mean we can experience social isolation.
Whatever the circumstance for you, there are practical ways to deal with it and get support.
If our social contact is limited for reasons beyond our control, this can come as a sudden shock to us and the feelings of loneliness can be quite intense.
Coronavirus has caused many of us to experience these feelings.
What causes it?
Coronavirus has forced thousands of people to self-isolate, which can be a shock to the system. People aren’t able to see their friends and family, do activities, or even go out and enjoy being around strangers.
Being limited to the house, especially if you live alone, can create strong feelings of loneliness.
However there doesn’t always need to be a trigger for someone to experience loneliness. Other life events can mean people feel lonely, such as:
- Moving to a new town or city
- Experiencing a loss
- Developing health issues
*Information sourced from mind.org
There are many other causes of loneliness and one trigger for one person may not be the same for another.
How loneliness can affect people
Loneliness is a feeling which can be emotionally painful. However, it can affect people in different ways.
We are not destined to experience loneliness as we age, however it is more likely to affect pensioners due to reasons mentioned above.
Studies have noted that loneliness can have an impact our immune system, quality of sleep and risk of heart disease.3
Other research has shown that loneliness can increase your chance of dying by 26%.
It can also be linked with mental health problems. Feeling isolated or lonely can make mental health problems worse. And existing mental health problems may worsen the feeling of being lonely.
Loneliness increases with age, so it’s important to try to take steps to combat it.
What do to do?
The spread of Coronavirus means people are being forced to stay inside. This might be with friends, family, or by yourself if you live alone.
If you are experiencing feelings of loneliness whilst unable to leave the house, here are some things you could do to help.
Practical advice and support
There are many types of support service available that could be useful. For example:
- Charities that offer befriending services. There are lots of charities that offer telephone befriending services. These put you in touch with volunteer befrienders who can call at a time convenient to you for a friendly chat. Some organisations will try to match people with a volunteer who has similar interests. Organisations include:
- Online communities – there are communities online that are free to join which allow people to chat with others who have similar experiences, It is always important not to give away any personal information (like bank account details). Communities include:
Other tips for dealing with feelings of loneliness
- Try to open up to people if you can. If there are people (friends or family) you could speak to, it’s important to let them know how you’re feeling. They make be able to help, or re-arrange their schedules to speak on the phone more often.
- Look after yourself physically. Make sure you eat regularly and healthily as diet makes a big impact to our moods. Try to get enough sleep and a good quality of sleep.
- Get some air. Having some fresh air and seeing some nature can help with wellbeing.
- Accept that it is only temporary. Understanding that loneliness is a temporary feeling and that you won’t always feel that way can be helpful to your outlook.
Useful resources for support:
*Information sourced from mind.org